I’ve just spent way too much time thinking about Amber Rose and the psychology of “who we attract” versus “who we choose.” Amber took part in Complex’s web series Open Late With Peter Rosenberg, and she made an interesting claim about something her therapist told her: that she attracts narcissistic sociopaths. Here’s my question: does she attract them or does she choose them? Or is it both?
On Complex magazine’s Web series “Open Late With Peter Rosenberg,” Amber Rose said, “I had to go see a therapist, and she was just like, ‘You attract narcissistic sociopaths.’ And I’m not mentioning no names. But a few of them have been that. Like, nah, you’re not gonna control my every move, you’re not gonna tell me what I need to wear, you’re not gonna tell me where I need to go or who to be friends with. I don’t have time for that s–t.”
She also told Rosenberg that when she sprang to fame, as West’s girlfriend back in 2008, the exposure didn’t exactly give her an A-list lifestyle.
“The first couple years, it was like, ‘You’re famous for dating that guy’ … But I didn’t get money from that — I got fame . .. When I walked outside, it was like, ‘Oh, s–t, that’s Amber Rose,’ but I was broke as f–k. I didn’t have any money and I didn’t have a bed and I didn’t have furniture.”
Obviously, most people are taking this as some kind of reference to Kanye West. Kanye does fit the profile of a controlling narcissistic sociopath, and he clearly thought that he had some kind of ownership over Amber. But what about some of Amber’s other partners? Was Wiz Khalifa a narcissistic sociopath? He always seemed so low-key. She also dated 21 Savage and Machine Gun Kelly, whom I know nothing about.
Going back the psychological dilemma, what do you think it is? Do those narcissists CHOOSE Amber, or does she choose them? I think she’s was pretty young when she first got with Kanye – she was in her early 20s – and while she was “street smart,” she might not have been relationship-smart. I could see how a narcissistic sociopath might have chosen her at that point because she was easier to manipulate and control. But everything past the Kanye relationship, I tend to believe that Amber is choosing to be with guys who aren’t right for her. Like, she does not have the best picker.
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